Top 10 Questions
1. How do I know if I need counseling?
There are several ways to determine if you need counseling.
2. How can I find the right counselor for me?
Ask other people for referrals. When you look for other services you try to get some first hand information from those who have used the services.
There are national and local professional organizations that will give referrals, such as New Life Clinics, American Association of Christian Counselors, Focus on the Family, and Christian Counselors of Central Florida. These organizations have very stringent criteria for therapists they refer.
A good consumer will call several counselors and talk with them. Ask about their credentials, their experiences with the particular problem you are facing, their type of counseling (theories or philosophies), and any specialized training they might have in the area of your concern.
You can make an appointment and meet with me face to face to decide if I am able to meet your needs.
3. Can my marriage / relationship be saved?
It is not the therapists job to save the marriage or relationship. Only you can do this. I will help you try to figure out what went wrong and how to fix it. This requires:
4. What about counseling for children?
If your child is showing signs that he or she is having problems, it is a good idea to bring them in for an evaluation. No child is too young for an evaluation. Prevention now is better than repair later.
They may be acting in ways that are not typical for them, such as bed-wetting, separation anxiety, aggressive behavior, or school-related behavior problems. It is likely that your children have been trying to show you that something is wrong by their actions. Often they cannot put their feelings into words.
Family crises, such as a separation, divorce, and death are often difficult for children to handle on their own, and they need your help in learning how to deal with these situations.
5. How do I get my child, especially teens to come to counseling?
My experience has shown that families that identify the problem as a family problem or concern rather than point the finger of blame on one member are more likely to get the children to cooperate with the counseling process.
Parents that are willing to consider that they might have contributed to their childrens misbehavior are more likely to get beneficial results from counseling.
6. How long does counseling take?
The best answer to this is the comparison to taking your car to the body shop for repairs after an accident. How much damage has been done to the vehicle?
The answer to how long will the counseling take can best be determined by a thorough evaluation of the problem.
7. What if my friend or spouse is addicted? Can counseling help them?
An initial evaluation is important in determining the extent of the problem and setting up a plan for treatment. There is often a history of alcohol or drug abuse in a persons family, sometimes going back for generations. It is difficult to break such longstanding patterns.
If the person who is addicted is willing to make a strong commitment
to treatment over an extended period of time, as well as a genuine desire
to change then counseling is likely to be quite beneficial.
8. If the person who is addicted is not willing to come into counseling, what can I do?
You can learn new ways of interacting with the addicted person so as to not continue to support their destructive behaviors.
You can learn new ways of protecting yourself from harmful interactions with the addicted person.
You can learn ways to break the destructive or harmful patterns of the addicted family.
9. Why should I go to counseling? How will it benefit me?
Everyone can benefit from counseling. Some of the benefits are:
10. How will I know when I am done?
The client and therapist work together to set up goals for counseling. When you have accomplished your goals and made the changes you wanted in your life. It is up to you to decide whether or not you have done what you wanted to do in coming to counseling.
Often, one change leads to another, and you may realize that you have changed some things without even realizing it. It is important to evaluate your progress along the way, and see if there are other areas you would like to explore.
As always, it is your decision to begin counseling and it is your decision
to end it. When the time comes, you will know, and it will feel like the
right thing to do.
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